Feb 28, 2022
How many times have you silenced yourself from expressing how you truly feel to someone because you fear coming across as needy? Maybe you worry what your partner may say if you find yourself needing more alone time. Or perhaps you think your over-achieving sister will slam you in front of the fam and call you lazy if you take the time you truly need to rest and recharge. Like, god-forbid you actually honor the fact that literally every human being has needs.
Not to mention we have a massive patriarchal narrative that reserves “neediness” largely for those identifying as women… and not necessarily in a good way. Perhaps you’ve been told, “You’re so emotional” or “You’re too sensitive’ or “You’re so needy” and you received the message loud and fucking clear that your needs are just way too much to handle and accommodate. So, we learn to silence ourselves and abandon what we truly want and need to live a happy life, which can lead to staying in jobs we loath and attached to relationships that make us feel like who we are is innately “wrong”.
This week on the show, I dial up my pal, Mara Glatzel, who is literally writing the book on being needy. We discuss the difference between wants and needs and why that doesn’t really matter all that much, what the concept of self-care has to do with honoring needs, and the first place you need to start when figuring out what you need. If you’ve been operating in a space of hustle, constantly taking care of other people, and really have never stopped to pause and evaluate your needs, this episode is a must-listen.
This pod explores:
- How-the-hell to balance honoring your needs/self-care and actually getting shit done
- The difference between the wildly popular Prescriptive Self-Care and the much needed Responsive Self-Care
- How to examine some of the doors we’ve shut on our own needs during the Pandemic because we aren’t able to fulfill them in the same way (ie If I can’t do group fitness anymore, I’ll just shut the fitness door completely)
- Why the concept of “Needs v. Wants” doesn’t really matter in living a fulfilled life
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ADDITIONAL RESOURCES:
- Grab your seat at my new workshop!! FOR FREE!!
- POD #274: 5 Reasons Why ‘Selfish’ is the New Black
- POD #344: What Self-Care “*Really* Means
- POD #430: Understanding + Working with the 4 Communication Styles – Part 1
- POD #431: Understanding + Working with the 4 Communication Styles – Part 2
- Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel
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THIS WEEK’S ‘DIAL AN EXPERT’ GUESTIE
Mara Glatzel, MSW (she/her) is an intuitive coach, writer, and
podcast host. She is a needy human who helps other needy humans
stop abandoning themselves and start reclaiming their humanity
through embracing their needs and honoring their natural energy
cycles. Her superpower is saying what you need to hear when you
need to hear it and she is here to help you believe in yourself as
much as she believes in you. Find out more at MaraGlatzel.com
Connect with Mara on Insta and take
her needs quiz for insight into your own desires and
requirements.
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